Our daily routine can sometimes make us forget what life is really about! Here are four easy tips to make the most of our journey.
Speak Your Mind
A lot of times we miss out on knowledge or experience opportunities because we don’t want to impose on other people or we’re afraid to ask questions. Don’t treat yourself as a burden. You are important, and you are not going to learn new things by staying in the corner. This is not to say that you should pick a fight every time you don’t agree with someone, but discussion and collaboration are vital for a functional society/life, and with the right tone and words, you can get further than you ever thought. As the common saying goes, you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. The best outcome for any conversation is dialogue, and the only way forward (in every aspect) is with a clean, healthy communication.
Control Your Fear
Fear is a feeling shared by everyone. We’ve all been paralyzed by different reasons, and in its ancient roots, fear serves a very important purpose: survival. However, modern day fear is almost always deeply engrained habits that been with us so long that we don’t even give them a second thought. Perhaps when you were a child you were told you weren’t good at something and now, as an adult, you won’t even think about it. Fear is, almost always, natural, and at its core, imaginary. The most common regrets expressed by people on their deathbeds are that they wish they‘d had more courage to express themselves and live their lives as their true selves, and that’s a heartbreaking thing. Make constant note of how many times, when you’re afraid, the fear is coming from inside you, and not from an outside threat. This might help you realize how many times you self-sabotage and avoid things that could really make your present better. In the end, there’s nothing scarier than missing out on what life has to offer.
You’d be surprised at all the unnecessary things and thoughts you think you can’t live without, and how much they weigh on your mind and energy. Simplicity is key, and can be applied to any dimension of your life; from your possessions and time to your relationships and debts. We’re not saying to sell your house and kiss your friends goodbye, but as simplicity goes, small efforts go long ways, and a bit of downsizing is always a relief and a step closer to your peace of mind. Appreciate your time and resources, because sometimes we end up living our lives for a myriad of reasons other than ourselves. Don’t say yes to every outing to the point that you have no time to yourself; don’t splurge every time you go shopping. Think before you speak as to not abuse your words; clean your closet out once in a while and donate. Don’t binge on food/alcohol or overindulge emotionally on people, and don’t overanalyze everything to the point that you don’t know what to do. The good thing is, a lot of things that affect us negatively can be reduced with simple solutions.
Love Fuels Change
We all have things we want to change. Be it goals or weak spots, I don’t think I’ve met a single person that doesn’t wants to modify something about their lives, and as Heraclitus once said, change is the only constant. Things are going to change, inevitably. The problem is when we want to change things out of a negative place. “I hate my thighs,” or “I hate my job” are not good starting points for improvement, because intentions occupy energy, and have a lot to do with the outcome. If we try to change something because we “hate” it, it’s quite possible the end result will not be the best it can be. If instead we think of love as the fuel, with thoughts like “I love the one body I’ve been given and I’m going to improve it,” or “I appreciate my talents enough to know I can do better professionally” the efforts are going to be much more focused and effective. Hate is a brute, underdeveloped feeling, and it only leads to underwhelming results. Love, however, requires more strength of mind & merit; hence its consequences are much more rewarding.